A few weeks back during a meeting one of my brides expressed the difficulty she was feeling that her mother, who had passed, would not be there with her on her wedding day. Unfortunately, this is not the first time I have been presented with this scenario, and I always want to make sure we include a parent or loved one who is no longer with us, in a way that honors their memory but also focuses on the happy celebration. I have had brides wear their father’s favorite dress shirt as they are getting ready or wear a piece of their mother’s jewelry walking down the aisle. Grooms have clutched a grandfather’s pocket watch as they recite their vows or even choose to use their father’s wedding band from this day forward.
While these were great ideas, this bride was looking for something more. I thought about some ideas over the next few days, and “it” came to me while in a department store. I was passing by the perfume counters and I saw a bottle of Chanel No. 5 that immediately made me think of my own mother. This is her “signature scent” and it often lets me know she has come into the room before she even speaks. I called my bride right away and asked what perfume her mother wore. The sales lady was kind enough to give me a sample, which I brought to our next meeting. I suggested that she wear her mother’s “signature scent” on her wedding day and when I sprayed the sample, she was instantly reminded of her mother.
Scent has such a way to conjure up memories,and I could not think of a better way for a bride or groom to remember a loved one, then to wear their perfume or cologne on the wedding day.
“Long after one has forgotten what a woman wore, the memory of her perfume lingers.” -Christian Dior
Thank you to Jennifer Lust Portrait Design for the beautiful images!